Start the New Year by Saving Time & Money: Your Meetings... "I don't have enough time to get MY work done because my days are filled with meetings." "I hate going to some meetings, because I feel they are pointless." "I go to meetings, but never feel like I can contribute." "We constantly revisit the same issues at meetings and never seem to progress. It's...
The Importance of Coaching The Importance of Coaching By Dr. John Berardi In the past, my default position, when butting up against a challenge or coming face to face with a problem, had been: "everyone out of my way, I'll figure this out myself." Whether it was a relationship issue, a health issue, a business issue,...
Don't miss Jayson at one of his upcoming events! 52 People & The Four Secrets to a Meaningful LIFE: Connecting with LIFE through strangers Are you living with strangers? This thought provoking presentation is based on Jayson’s award winning and recently released book 52 People. Jayson will share an inside look at his challenging...
52 People, 4 secrets & 2 days... (a life changing weekend) 52 People - 4 Secrets & 2 Days (of meaningful connection) Are you living with strangers? This life changing weekend is based on Jayson's award winning and recently released book "52 People". Jayson has extracted the fundamental aspects of his challenging year long social experiment...
Catch up with 52 People on CJSW radio On February 29th, Jayson stopped by the studio of CJSW in Calgary to chat about 52 People, The Crusade for Meaningful Connection and upcoming events... Listen below and...Stop Living With Strangers! Oh, and did we mention that you should order the book?
- Poor Planning
- Ineffective Facilitation
- Not leveraging the entire group
- Lack of clarity around actions and accountabilities
Driven By Passion has created a unique system that makes meetings matter through high performance principles.
In a custom designed half day, full day or two-day workshop you will be able to:
- Create a quick and powerful performance plan for your meetings
- Facilitate your meetings to get the most out of your group
- Design your meetings to engage all learning styles and personalities
- Wrap up your meetings with clear actions and measurements of success
- Deliver the latest tools to ensure engagement in both face-to-face and remote meetings
- Ensure participants leave feeling like effective contributors to an effective meeting
Save yourself time, money and frustration by bringing Jayson into your group to inspire, educated and deliver “Meetings as a Success Plan”.
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The Importance of Coaching
By Dr. John Berardi
In the past, my default position, when butting up against a challenge or coming face to face with a problem, had been: “everyone out of my way, I’ll figure this out myself.”
Whether it was a relationship issue, a health issue, a business issue, or even a problem with my car, I figured I had enough intellectual firepower to tackle the issue. I’d buy some books, search Google, learn everything I needed to know, and then go about trying to fix my issue.
Yes, it feels empowering and righteous to be a do-it-yourself kind of person.
After all, I consider myself a pretty intelligent guy. I’ve earned a host of University degrees (including a PhD). I score in the top percentile on most intelligence tests. I run a successful and thriving company, one that does meaningful work. And I’m generally seen as the go-to guy for family and friends when it comes to solving problems.
However, this idea that I’m a “really smart guy” sometimes gets in my way. It’s also distracting, inefficient, and…well…not-so-smart.
I was reminded of this mission critical lesson the other day. I was running errands and returned home to find my home computer network broken down. Since my wife and I work from home offices, that’s a pretty big problem.
Being a “smart guy”, naturally, I’d set up my own home computer network. So, when I found it broken down, I began a “troubleshooting” process.
(I put troubleshooting in quotes for a reason. Having no formal training in network set-up or administration, I don’t really know what the heck I’m doing. So, what I call troubleshooting, others might call, stumbling around blindly in the dark).
I spent about an hour fiddling with settings and made some small improvements. But the network was still busted. And, based on previous experience, it’d likely take me hours (or more) to get this sorted out.
Fortunately, as I was just about to make a classic mistake and dig into this process, my wife and 2-year-old daughter knocked on my office door. It was quittin’ time for the day and they wanted to go to the park.
So, instead of ham-fistedly hacking my way though the network process, I called a local network technician I trust. (Someone who’s actually trained in the process). She came right over. I took my family to the park.
When we got back, she was gone and the network was fixed. And, not only was it fixed, it was working better than ever before, with more features and capabilities that would make our lives and our work easier.
I called her for a debriefing. Apparently, it took her only 30 minutes to fix the problem and enhance the network. (Remember, I’d already wasted 1 hour on the issue without resolving it).
I asked her to walk me through what she did. And, of course, her fix was something that would have never occurred to me. Even though I’ve set up networks and home offices in every house I’ve lived in for the last 15 years.
So, what’s the point?
Well, think of this story as an anti-do-it-yourself parable. I know, just saying that feels wrong to me. As an entrepreneur, I’m highly inclined toward do-it-yourself.
Yet, I’ve also learned that trying to do everything myself, even though I’m capable and “smart,” often distracts me from the most important things in my life.
Personally, these important things are my family, my own health and fitness, and my professional goals. They form my own “holy trinity” of meaning. And, in saying yes to anything else, I’m saying no to one of those things, if even for just a little while.
But that’s just at the best of times. (I’m lucky as my family, friends, and colleagues are willing to forgive me little diversions from the path).
At the worst of times, trying to do things myself can lead to massive inefficiencies, wasted effort, and tremendous frustration. I’ve seen this in other people too.
One of my closest friends – honestly, the most intelligent guy I’ve ever met – is a guy who’d struggled with “relationship issues” his entire dating life. Being a fellow entrepreneur and “smart guy” he figured he could think his way through these issues with that big brain of his. Never worked.
However, after getting some relationship coaching/counseling, he became a different guy. He ended up meeting the type of woman he’d always dreamed about being with. And he’s happily married to her today.
As a cool bonus, that coaching spilled out into other areas of his life, and other relationships too. Nowadays, he’s more calm, centered, and has a keen perspective that he never had in the past.
We’ve often discussed how important that coaching and direction really was for him. And, with 100% confidence, he tells me that the counseling didn’t just speed up his development. Rather, it took him to a place he’d never have gotten without guidance. His logical, “left-brained”, intelligence was killing this kind of progress.
In essence, being smart was the problem.
I see this all the time in the nutrition coaching business. My company runs the world’s largest nutrition coaching company. And, every day, really smart people come to us with their hands up in the air.
They’ve tried to get in shape, or improve their blood markers, on their own. And, although they’ve made some progress, it just feels too hard to sustain within the context of their lives. Plus, they often want more progress and simply can’t make it happen on their own.
This sounds familiar to me. It’s the networking problem all over again. Or the relationship problem. Smart people trying to figure things out on their own when help is just a phone call away.
In the end, here’s the point I’m trying to make.
Smart people – precisely because they’re smart – often think that they can single-handedly solve all their own problems by using their innate intelligence. As a result, they’re slow to ask for help and even slower to get coaching.
I totally get it. I was one of those guys for a long time. Thankfully, I’m not any more. I’ve learned that the smartest thing one can do is to drop the hero act and get some coaching.
It’s not just about speeding up the learning process. It’s about freeing up your time to say yes to the really important things in your life and no to everything else.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got a date with my daughter at the park.
Learn more about Dr. John Berardi at: http://www.johnberardi.com/
Jayson completed his coaching certification through The Coaches Training Institute. He has worked as a leadership coach through industries such as sport administration, oil & gas, printing & design, education and construction.
- To inquire about working with Jayson in either a mentoring or coaching capacity, please contact us by emailing: info(at)drivenbypassion(dot).com
Connecting with LIFE through strangers
“This book will move you to examine your own relationships in a new and hopeful light.”
- David Irvine, Author of ‘Becoming Real: Journey To Authenticity’ and
‘Simple Living In A Complex World’
“52 People takes us back to what it is to be human.”
- Karen Kimsey-House, CEO and co-founder of The Coaches Training Institute
“Powerful stories about the intimate questions of our lives.”
- Paul Loeb, Author, Soul of a Citizen
52 People – 4 Secrets & 2 Days (of meaningful connection)
Are you living with strangers?
Jayson has extracted the fundamental aspects of his challenging year long social
experiment where he went in search of meaningful connection. He will show you the secrets behind how he created meaningful connections with others in airports, taxis, kareoke bars, during dance class, on water slides, business meetings, during a cold-call and while walking on fire.
As a participant, you will leave this urgent and timely weekend possessing the 4 secrets to meaningful connection. You will understand how to reach out to the people in your life, truly create a powerful network, and to go beneath the surface to create more meaningful relationships and eliminate the strangers in your life.
In this action packed weekend you will:
* Learn key physiological and high performance principles that relate to developing powerful relationships.
* Learn the essential skills to powerfully engage others.
* Learn the critical step that most people by-pass when developing relationships.
* Develop the ability to make others feel incredibly valued (enhancing the way they see you).
* Stretch your capacity to put the 4 secrets into action.
* Practice and gain high level skill using the 4 secrets to meaningful connection.
* Learn the different ways of developing powerful relationships in any social setting, at home or work.
* Captivate others by your ability to connect.
Are you ready to take the lead in your relationships?
Stop Living With Strangers and put the 4 secrets into action by bringing Jayson into your organization.
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We are pleased to announce that 52 People is a finalist for the Montaigne Medal from the Eric Hoffer Awards for books. We will find out in mid to late April whether or not we win. Please keep your fingers crossed and thanks for your support!
Information on the award is below.
Each year, the Eric Hoffer Award for books presents the Montaigne Medal to the most thought-provoking title(s). These are books that either illuminate, progress, or redirect thought. The Montaigne Medal is given in honor of the great French philosopher Michel de Montaigne, who influenced people such as William Shakespeare, René Descartes, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Friedrich Nietzsche, Jean-Jacques Rousseau, and Eric Hoffer. This is an additional distinction beneath the Eric Hoffer Award umbrella.
“I felt all the time he was writing about me. He knew my innermost thoughts.”
-Eric Hoffer, from his memoir, Truth Imagined
Otto Von Bismark said, “there are two things you don’t want to see being made; sausage and legislation.”
Both of those processes are tedious and stomach churning. Did I mention messy? Although Chancellor Bismark was probably right by advising us to steer clear of watching these nauseating processes, but I think he missed one. Along with avoiding sausage and legislation, the other thing you do not want to see being made is… greatness.
We love seeing greatness while greatness is happening. The game winning score, that passionate speech, the enchanting novel, but the process of making greatness takes much longer, is far more messy and is unbearably tedious. Greatness is a process of tearing and repairing, falling and getting back up, doing what others are unwilling to do; all of this with an unwavering commitment for something better.
Gladwell’s 10,000 hours
Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hour rule has become common vernacular when it comes to mastery. The result? People design their lives to ensure they log the hours so they can reach that crucial milestone… but there’s more. It’s more than simply logging time, it is the quality of that time that matters most. What are you doing with that time? Are you doing what you’ve always done, or are you stretching yourself beyond your capacity? Are you sticking with your habitual routines, or are you deviating from safety to explore new ways. When it comes to 10,000 hours, it’s the quality of time put forth that determines the quality of skill you are producing.
Greatness and relationships
How does this relate to relationships? This can be the most accessible mess in our lives. We are surrounded by, avoid, desire, succeed and screw up relationships all the time. How does one achieve an equivalent level of ‘greatness’ in the relationships in their lives? The same as one would develop into a great hockey player, artist or pianist: practice.
How much time do we really devote to the development of our relationships? If there is one area in our lives where we constantly hit auto-pilot it is our relationships. Our relationships with significant others, family and friends can easily default to a stagnant place of avoiding confrontation and therefore avoiding growth. It doesn’t take long to lose the place of honey-moonish curiosity, puppy dog playfulness and an explorer’s way of adventure. We become comfortable. We stop asking questions and start making assumptions. Instead of engaging, we eventually become disengaged and seek to avoid instead of explore. People begin letting us down as they slowly descend from the pedestal we put them on.
Mastering relationships is messy, uncomfortable, it takes curiosity and an unwavering commitment to learn and get better. It takes tearing and repairing, the willingness to open up and stretch beyond your capacity. It’s painful at times.
Deviate from your normal routines and take the lead to create deeper, more meaningful relationships in your life. Enhance the quality of your relationships and take the path of mastering real connection.
52 People is now available in paperback! Join the crusade and ‘get real’ with the people in your life by ordering a copy now through AMAZON
Be one of the first to read the new and expanded version. Here are what others are saying about it:
“Jayson Krause’s 52 People is an inspired and truly authentic piece of work. The stories are beautifully told and will touch your heart. This book will move you to examine your own relationships in a new and hopeful light. In a world of “high tech”, this unique and timely project offers a “high touch” experience.”
- David Irvine,
Author of ‘Becoming Real: Journey To Authenticity’ and ‘Simple Living In A Complex World’
“This book is powerful. 52 People gives amazing insight into the human psyche and calls us all forth to pay attention to those in our lives and to connect with life itself.”
- Loren Scott,
Silicon Valley Executive
“52 People is a thoughtful and eye-opening look at the nature of our relationships. It examines long-held social myths and unveils comforting truths about the world around us. Well-crafted and moving, this book will inspire you to ‘get real’ with those closest to you.”
- Alec Harrison,
Emmy nominated Composer
Get it now for your kindle or E-reader by clicking HERE.
Coming Soon you will have 52 People in paper back. This will make an excellent Christmas present for your family, friends and co-workers. If you’d like to be notified when the paperbacks are available, I recommend you sign up for our email list on theof this page!
Coming soon in the fall of 2011!
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52 PEOPLE – Connecting With Life Through Strangers
“My best friend died a stranger to me.”
- Jayson Krause
He was the best man at his wedding and gave the eulogy at his funeral. After fifteen years, Author Jayson Krause experienced the crushing realization that he knew very little about who his best friend was. This stinging realization led to a passionate year long quest in search of meaningful connection.
In a world of electronic relationships, how willing will someone be to sit down with a complete stranger, face to face, and answer 10 personal questions?
Krause daringly illustrates that meaningful connection can take place in the strangest places; bathroom stalls, karaoke bars, dance class, water slides, rubber dinghies, casinos, and while walking on fire.
Adventurous, courageous and revealing, Krause tackles the myths of social connection and approaches random strangers from across the world in attempts to find the hidden answers. 52 People takes readers to the daring place of real connection and offers a compelling and urgent way of thinking about relationships.